Hello was contacted by a good friend of mine, AnJuan Thomas, to come in and talk about the experience of love between my late wife Cortina Hill and I.
On February the 25th of last year, the unimaginable happened: I lost her to colon cancer. It was my son’s 12th birthday and the next day would’ve been her 50th birthday. It was the darkest day of my life and I didn’t know at that moment how I would make it through. I was there when she took her last breath and the only thing I could think of is when the marriage vows state “for better or worse, in sickness and in health”. Love will make you stick it out to the end.
I was stationed at Schofield Barracks in Hawaii when I met her. I knew it was destined of God because she said she would never get married to anyone. I had the same thoughts for years until God said differently. We may have our own plans, but God knows exactly what we need. We need a life partner that will not only be married to us but to do life with. Cortina and I did life together…we weren’t just married. So many say they’re married and don’t even like their spouse. It defeats the whole purpose of love. Don’t just be married…do life together. You’ll find out the whole meaning of being in love is totally different than what others have to say. Being in love like we were took a lot of comprising and understanding…knowing that sometimes we will miss the mark and need each other’s grace.
So what does it truly mean to do life with someone? It’s truly forgetting yourself and committing yourself to the other person. We didn’t do anything without one another. If a friend or friends wanted to do men’s night, I always gave her the common courtesy of asking if she wanted to go. I already knew the answer but always give her the courtesy in asking. She would in turn do the same. As men, we don’t mind but a woman always wants to know that she is wanted and it’s very important to give her that affirmation. Love is considerate and always having your spouse in mind, protecting her heart at all cost, is key.
Lastly, if I could say to any man that wants to awaken a woman’s love, it is to always do what the Bible says in 1 Peter 3:7: “Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the weaker vessel”. That verse is saying to honor her not because she’s weak in mind or stature but rather it means she needs a man that will cover her and protect her because of certain things she won’t be able to do. And Ephesians 5:25 says, “Husbands love your wives as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her”. I would lay my life down for her...done so on numerous occasions and that’s what love will do. It’s not talk…it’s an action word that needs to be displayed.
God bless you and remember that God is love and you can’t love properly without Him .